The other night we were walking through the home we recently purchased and will finally be able to move into in a few days, provided our new upstairs carpeting and kitchen floor get installed on time – crossing our fingers! Anyway, my father-in-law said, “It’s amazing how you can put nice carpeting and paint in a room and then completely ruin the affect with bad lighting.”
He was commenting on the downstairs family room. It was the first time we were seeing it at night, without the natural sunlight coming in. He was right. The lighting was horrible and something we will change right away.
It also made me think how the same thing is true of us. We can do our best to look pretty on the outside, but if the light coming from within us is dull and cold, it will dress-down everything else about us. And, if we remain that way for too long, we’ll find ourselves in a very lonely and depressing place.
So many things affect our inner light: too much stress, not enough sleep, bad habits, too much change at one time, a house closing that took much longer than expected, your perfectly healthy 18-month-old being rejected for health insurance and having to wait for a letter of explanation through snail mail before you can do anything about it…but, enough about me. The point is, the list goes on and on. Really though, it comes down to attitude. How many times have you heard the saying, “Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.”
Crisis moments will always arise and some days it will feel like a “kick me” sign is permanently attached to your back. Those moments and days are out of our control, but our attitude isn’t.
I confess that I’ve allowed my inner light to become dim more often than I’d like lately. Let’s just say, life has been unsettled for awhile now and fatigue is setting in. Still, it’s no excuse, because everyone can agree that poor lighting only makes things worse.
It’s funny how something so unrelated, such as my father-in-law’s comment, can bring things back in to perspective. That moment made me realize that I need to stay focused on all the things that are going right, and return to an attitude of gratitude as fast as possible whenever I start losing the right light.